The 3 Most Common Gift-Giving Mistakes (And How to Actually Get It Right)
Let’s be honest, gift-giving isn’t always easy. Even when we know the person well. Even when we think we’ve found something good. I've been there... more than once.
Over the years, I’ve given great gifts, okay gifts… and a few that I wish had come with a receipt and a time machine.
But through those wins and misfires, I’ve learned what really matters, and where most people (even the thoughtful ones) tend to go wrong.
Here are the three most common gift-giving mistakes I see, plus how to avoid them, and give something that actually means something.
❌ Mistake #1: Playing It Too Safe
I get it, no one wants to give a “weird” gift. So we default to the safe stuff: candles, gift cards, generic gadgets. But let me tell you something…
Safe doesn’t get remembered.
Safe doesn’t spark joy.
Safe is... forgettable.
✅ The fix: Look for something tied to the person’s interests, not just their demographic.
Are they the type who wakes up early to fish, even when it’s freezing out? Then why not lean into that and give him something that shows you get it?
→ I put together this guide full of gifts for fisherman - from practical tools to fun surprises only a fellow outdoorsy type would appreciate.
🎣 The point isn’t the object, it’s the message: “I see what lights you up. I support it.”
❌ Mistake #2: Forgetting That Friendship Deserves Thought Too
We put so much focus on birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays… that we forget about the people who quietly show up for us year-round: our friends.
Especially guy friends. For whatever reason, people assume men don’t care about gifts. That they’re “hard to buy for.” So we don’t try.
✅ The fix: Think less about occasion, more about connection.
Got a friend who’s always helping you move, fix things, or just shows up when you need him? Surprise him with something fun, functional, or just clever. It doesn't have to be grand, just genuine.
→ Here are some gift ideas for guy friends that strike the right balance between useful and personal.
Dad Tip: When guys get a thoughtful gift from a mate, it hits different — because it’s rare. Be the one who gets it right.
❌ Mistake #3: Shopping for the Season, Not the Person
You’ve seen it: the summer gift boxes full of flamingo tumblers and tropical-scented lotions… or the winter sets of scarves and cocoa. Themed stuff can be fun, sure. But it only works if it suits the person.
Otherwise, it’s just stuff, and they’ll feel it.
✅ The fix: Choose something that fits their season of life, not just the season of the year.
→ I made this summer gifts guide with that exact idea in mind, small joys, creative ideas, and meaningful surprises that don’t rely on sunscreen or gimmicks.
Or if they’re more curious than seasonal, go deeper.
→ A science gift for the person who loves to learn? That sticks. That’s something they’ll use, share, and smile about.
💬 Final Thought
The best gifts don’t say, “I spent money.”
They say, “I paid attention.”
When you skip the assumptions, ignore the pressure, and listen just a little more closely, you’ll start spotting gift ideas in everyday moments, a conversation, a hobby, a memory.
And that’s when giving gets good.
👉 Need a hand?
If you’re still stuck, I’ve got you covered over at TheGiftingDad.com. From smart gifts to big feelings, it’s full of hand-picked ideas and heartfelt advice to help you give with confidence.
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